#notmetoo

So, my dad’s sick in the hospital, & my son’s failing classes in school.  I suppose it’s distraction, but what can I not get out of my head?  With the recent #metoo campaign, it seems the majority of my female acquaintances have faced some form of sexual assault or harassment. I feel the utmost sympathy for them.  However, I can’t help but wonder if there’s something wrong with me because I haven’t.

Unless you count the occasional honk from a trucker or passing motorist or the one-time groping in a bar years ago, I can’t think of a single time I’ve been harassed in any way.  Perhaps I’m just lucky.  Or maybe I am less attractive than average.  I don’t know.  Granted, I work in a female-dominated helping field, and my supervisors for the last twenty plus years have either been female or gay, so maybe that’s some explanation.

What I think also bothers me about this is the fact that, although I’m fairly progressive on most issues, I feel society is currently swinging the pendulum a little too far toward everyone feeling the need to be victimized or offended.  Rape and assault victims, as well as those who have faced harassment in the workplace, deserve great respect and support, and their attackers deserve punishment.  However, I was informed by some women that my being catcalled or touched did amount to harassment, and I was just too stupid to realize it.  Having lived independently to the grand age of forty-four, I think I’m capable of deciding whether or not I’ve been victimized.  Have I ever felt that what I was saying might be taken more seriously or given more weight if I were a man?  Yes.  Does that mean I want special treatment that would actually give me less power?  Hell no.

Women do make up the majority of victims of sexual assault and harassment, but we don’t have a corner on the market.  Since the Weinstein story broke, many young gay men have also come forward with similar stories about other movie and play producers.

Likewise, the current campus climate can be taken so far as to unfairly penalize men.  According to some colleges, if a girl and guy have a few drinks and have sex, it could be considered rape because the woman could not give consent.  I don’t know about anyone else, but if I, at 110 pounds, can have a drink and safely drive home with a BAC under the legal limit, I can certainly decide whether I want to have sex with someone or not.  I rarely agree with Betsy DeVos, who wants to leave special education to the states and arm schools to protect children against bears, but I think she makes some good points in this case.  Back in the day, if you slept with a guy and he didn’t call, you were screwed over and he was a dick, not a rapist.

Furthermore, I’ve often felt more judged by women than men.  I’ve had a neighbor woman comment to a relative about my choice of dress, or lack thereof,  as I was mowing my own yard.  A woman also commented that my boss in a previous job must enjoy the short skirt I had on.  Again, those comments were made by other women.

Maybe if everyone treated everyone else as human or living beings, there would be less need for sanctions or hashtag movements in the first place.  Until that happens, I guess I’ll just keep wondering if I should feel offended or lucky…

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Double Down on Double Dogs

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UPDATE: Double Dogs and the Lexington Health Dept have reached an agreement, & Dogs will soon be welcome in an outdoor area. Thanks to all who signed the petition! https://www.change.org/p/fayette-county-health-department-lexington-fayette-co-health-dept-allow-dogs-on-double-dogs-restaurant-s-patio/nftexp/ex5/control/5168559?recruiter=5168559&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=share_for_starters_page&utm_term=share_for_starters_page&utm_content=ex5%3Acontrol

The Lexington Fayette County Health Department in Ky ruled that Double Dogs Restaurant could not allow dogs on its patio.  The chain already has locations in Louisville and Bowling Green.  The health department claimed in a series of statements and tweets that their decision was due to state and/or federal law.

However, restaurants in the state and the city have allowed pet owners to bring their dogs onto their patios for years. In fact, Lexington had previously been named as one of the most dog-friendly cities in the country. There is a petition circulating to get the health department to reverse their decision.

https://www.change.org/p/fayette-county-health-department-lexington-fayette-co-health-dept-allow-dogs-on-double-dogs-restaurant-s-patio/nftexp/ex5/control/5168559?recruiter=5168559&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=share_for_starters_page&utm_term=share_for_starters_page&utm_content=ex5%3Acontrol

This decision is the latest in a series of seemingly cold-hearted, wrong-minded ones by this health department,which has also sought to limit unauthorized feeding of the homeless and limit services for undocumented workers.

Mayor Jim Gray has sought to portray Lexington as a forward-thinking, progressive city in a mostly conservative, backward state.  Unfortunately, the health department is not making his job any easier.

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My animal evolution (& Ky’s lack thereof)

Let me preface this work by saying that I am not vegan. I grew up on a farm. I do not fish or hunt, but I’m not diametrically opposed to those who do, if they do so legally. Those statements are as likely to piss off some people as they are to reassure others, but they are the truth. That said, years of volunteering with the local humane society as well as other organizations have shown me that we here in Ky have a lot of work to do in the realm of animal welfare.

My sisters and I grew up on a small family farm in Ky surrounded by animals of all varieties. Of course we had dogs and cats. We also had horses, cattle, chickens and, for awhile during an ill-advised period in my dad’s farming operation, pigs.

Levi the german shepherd is the first dog I can remember. When I was 4 or 5, a car ran over him while he was following Dad’s tractor to the field. He survived, but he was paralyzed in his back legs. He managed to get around amazingly well and lived seemingly contently for another couple years though. Husky and Brownie were black and blond labs we had through most of our childhood. They were outside dogs and were typical Labs. We wallowed them and rode them. The most violent behavior ever displayed by either was to knock my baby sister Katy down with their wagging tails when she was a baby.

A parade of cats lived in our barn over the years. A beautiful three-legged Persian female stayed around the longest, but there were calicos and tabbies too. I don’t remember any of them being fixed or vetted for the most part. Spaying and neutering was not as prevalent then, at least around here. Several litters of kittens were born in that barn’s hay loft.

After Levi, we didn’t have any inside pets except goldfish and parakeets for years. Mom worked full-time as a social worker. I guess between raising three kids and working, cleaning up after an extra mammal was her limit. When Katy was a tween, she begged and begged for a dog. The result was Cocoa, a cute but not overly intelligent miniature poodle. Katy babied and slept with him for awhile but eventually, as kids sometimes do, grew tired of him. He and Mom continued their dysfunctional relationship well into my 20s until his merciful death.

I was between 6 and 8 when I got Toby, a Shetland pony mix. He was already old when I got him. Dad bought him off someone in another county. He was foundered, but he was said to be gentle with kids. I had been taking riding lessons for a year or so, and Mom and Dad thought he would be a good first horse. I spent hours brushing him, cleaning his hooves and riding him around our yard. We even entered him in the county fair leadline event one year. We stood out like sore thumbs, me leading him and my sister Mandy on his back. He was short and dumpy compared to the quarter and walking horses in the ring, but I thought he was the most beautiful creature there. One time my friend Stacey and I were riding him barrel-style around the trees in the yard. The saddle started slipping until she fell sideways onto the ground. Toby stopped in his tracks to keep from trampling her. I came home from a slumber party on a winter Saturday morning when I was 15 to find Dad throwing up outside the house. Toby had been having more and more trouble getting around and was blind in one eye. Dad had just gotten home from taking him to the back field, shooting and burying him.

We showed cattle in 4-H in high school. My first show calf was Eppie, a black Chianina-Angus cross heifer. Eppie was not a big cow, as most Chis are. She was generally good-natured, but she could have an attitude, as evidenced by her headbutting Mom off her feet into a bush. She stayed with the herd for years after her show career ended.

Note: A modern misdemeanor cruelty to animals law went into effect in Ky in 1974. Prior to that, most animal laws centered on the issuance of dog rabies and licensing tags and dogs running at large.

Leo was my first big girl dog. I got him from a backyard breeder (the one and only time) when I was young and dumber in my early 20s. I had just recently seen a chow and thought it was the cutest thing ever. I knew nothing about their temperament, there was no google and I had not bothered to do any research at the library before getting him. He was to be a Christmas/birthday gift for my boyfriend at the time. Leo failed puppy kindergarten by refusing to obey even the most basic commands. He had a mind of his own. He hated rain but loved snow. He refused to enter dog houses or baby pools or my first apartment. He barked at leaves and strangers, especially men. Despite being fixed, he humped my leg before going through doorways. However, he loved other dogs and took to every stray I brought home.

Broadway got his name because Bob, my ex, and I found him running across Broadway in downtown Lexington dragging a chain. We ended up taking him home, where he was welcomed by Leo and spent the rest of his life. He was one of the smartest dogs I have known. Once he escaped his tie-out while I was at work and walked over to my grandmother’s house for a visit. He developed epilepsy later and life and had to take daily medication, but it did not slow him down much.

Shortly after getting Leo, a neighbor Cynthia spoke as we were on a daily walk. I found out she was involved with PAWS, a humane society in the process of getting a local animal shelter built. The shelter at that time was a pound, where dogs went into an outside pen together with little food and a lot of disease. Dogs rarely left the pound alive. I had never been able to bring myself to actually go there. I went to a PAWS meeting in the bank basement and heard about what the group was doing, including building plans, fundraising, and grant writing. The new shelter opened in October 1997. It had several dog runs, a cat room, a puppy room, a surgery room, a garage and reception area. An outside play area would come later. I volunteered for a few years with PAWS and eventually became a board member. We did Petsmart adoption days, helped clean cages and walk dogs, did bingo, golf tournament and silent auction fundraisers. I left the board in 2003 when I adopted my son. Today the PAWS animal shelter is ranked among the top in the state.

Note: Animal shelter standards did not exist under Ky law until 2007. KRS 258.119 lay out some simple standards. However, there is no agency designated to provide oversight of these standards.

Around the fall of 2011 my son Bersain decided we had been without a dog for long enough. We looked at PAWS, and one of the workers directed us to a cute little Jack Russell mix Warner, who was jumping up and down at the gate of his run. I needed an active dog for my active little boy, she said. I should have known they would be double trouble.

Then in December 2015, after the Homeward Bound rescue hoarding case yielded over 170 dogs in need, we fostered Splash, who could have been Warner’s brother. We figured our four-legged family was complete at that point.

Last summer problems came to light at the Albany Ky animal shelter. Volunteers went public with evidence of animals not being fed or watered, dead cats being found and animals being unnecessarily and improperly euthanized. The shelter was also ranked third last in the state by a vet study. I saw a social media post for a little brindle pit about to be put down there, and something in me had to save her. I drove the five-hour round trip to pick her up one night after work. She was to go on to a foster and rescue. However, my husband fell in love with her. So, Mila is our third (and last?) dog.

Note: A felony animal cruelty law known as Romeo’s Law was finally enacted in Ky in 2008. The only major pro-animal law to pass in the state since was the felony dogfighting possession bill last year. There is still no shelter reform, bestiality law, or felony cockfighting law in the state.

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SJR 18 passes

Now that Republican senators have caved and voted along party lines to pass SJR 18, which will allow the killing of bear and wolf cubs in dens in Alaska, they should probably fear the day they may meet this man.

Please call, email or tweet the president and demand he veto this disgusting bill!

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Ky General Assembly helps law enforcement animals, but hurts assistance animals serving people with disabilities


K9, search & rescue and narcotics and bomb-detection dogs will soon have a little more protection thanks to a new law passed by the legislature.

Currently if a service animal, including a K9 or disability assistance animal, is killed or unable to return to service as a result of an assault, the perpetrator can be charged with a felony crime. The new law will provide that a felony can be charged even if a K9 animal can return to work.

Unfortunately, due to a committee substitute added to the bill HB 93 in the House Judiciary Committee, chaired by Joe Fischer, disability assistance animals will no longer be covered under the felony law at all.

While glad that law enforcement animals will have greater protection, I am saddened that other service animals who protect, comfort and assist individuals with disabilities will actually have less protection as a result of the law.

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Kentucky legislature setting the stage for the slaughter of horses with SB 139

Not sure if this is a relatively benign tax-related bill or something more sinister that could open the door back up to horse slaughter, but stay tuned!

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FRANKFORT, KY — Kentucky is marketed as the Horse Capital of the World, the State with “unbridled spirit”, as seen in its logo.

Tragically, this unbridled spirit does not extend to the safety, well-being and benevolent treatment of the horses it so proudly hails as an integral part of its history, economy and culture.

Kentucky is renowned for its lack of animal protection laws and that extends to its horses. According to some, Kentucky ranks in the bottom five in animal welfare but most recently there have been claims it is at the very bottom.

Here are two examples involving racehorses. There are many more.

1. There is nothing on the books that governs how many times a racehorse can be whipped or for how long before it becomes cruelty or abuse, a Churchill Downs veterinarian smirked several years ago.

2. When PeTA exposed horrific acts of cruelty exposed in…

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What do I care?

As you may have heard, Richard Berman, spearhead of the Harvest Project, who has for financial gain run campaigns against MADD and HSUS, is airing a Super Bowl commercial blasting HSUS. If you are a fellow animal advocate/rescuer, you may be upset by this, or you may think so what. If you are among the latter group, you are not alone.

Our organization KVFA has not agreed with HSUS’s stance on every issue. Berman’s attacks on them generally are, in effect, that they do not give their money to individual animal shelters and that they are extremists akin to PETA. He couches his organization as being concerned with the rights of consumers, pet owners, hunters and farmers.

Why then, you may ask yourself, does he attack HSUS rather than PETA, whose mission is far more extreme? Follow the money. HSUS is the largest national organization that pushes for stronger animal welfare laws in each state. Berman knows this, which is why they are his main target. But why would anyone unjustly target groups that try to help animals or drunk driving victims? Who stands to gain from damage to these groups? Who would pay Berman to run his smear campaigns? The NRA and alcoholic beverage companies come to mind.

http://bermanexposed.org/

Ky, ranked last in the nation for animal laws by ALDF for the 10th year in a row despite the welcome passage of the dogfighting bill last year, certainly needs to improve animal laws, and we need all the help we can get from groups like HSUS and ASPCA. Yet groups like Berman’s, the Kentucky Houndsmen Association, Big Ag and legislators like Robin Webb who regurgitate their nonsense, are determined to prevent better laws for animals. They claim their main concern is hunting/farming rights. However, those rights are already protected in our animal welfare laws. So why would they continue to undermine work and fight better laws, such as a law against bestiality? Again follow the money. A search of their donors could prove very interesting.

Webb’s recent fb post-
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We on the ground who call, email and visit our legislators for better animal laws every year, and rescue one animal after another from pitiful conditions, would be wise to band together in these uncertain times with other grass-roots groups, as well as take advantage of resources of groups like HSUS and ASPCA . In an era of alternative facts, we have to question the motives of those who try to divide and conquer us. Just a little something to mull over as you’re watching the big game…<a fb<a

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post-election pause

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Well, the election is long over, so you either don’t care, are overjoyed and waiting for America to be great again, or are like me and just now recovering from the shock of having the first orange president instead of the first woman president. Or maybe you’re like Kanye West, and the election results have turned you from a Clinton supporter to a BLM/Trump supporter, and you’re so confused you had to cancel your tour and have a mental collapse (granted, not much of a catalyst might be needed for that for him).

Regardless, Trump is what we’re stuck with for the next four years, unless he’s somehow impeached. I for one am going to try to give it a chance. I’m just going to have to be more selfish and not worry about others. After all, I’m straight, white and definitely too old to ever need a safe abortion, so I should be good. I do have a Latino son, but hell, he’s almost grown, so I guess he’ll just have to learn to fend for himself. Kids these days are so coddled, maybe it’ll be good for him. And hey, maybe my health insurance premium will go down a little when all the E Ky Trump voters lose their Obamacare.

Kudos to all you crazy kids out protesting and wearing safety pins-good on ya! It’s just too much for me. Kanye and I will just be over here having our respective breakdowns.

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2016 Ky 3A Bourbon County marching band champions!

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I haven’t posted much lately, partially because I have been busy this fall following and cheering on my son’s band. It has been worth it though. This weekend they were the state champs in their class for the year.

Their show, which you can watch below, was created by their director in honor of his late father.

Enjoy!

(a performance from earlier in the season)

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Ky animal survey

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/KF898RJ

Please take our Ky animal legislative survey! Please choose the answers that most apply. Thanks!

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